Dating Rules for Women

Guys: If you don't like this, look away now.


In another dating article on this site, you will find a general set of rules than men should follow when dating. In the same way, women have some general rules that they should contend with when entering the dating jungle. Now I know everyone is different, so don't take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published in the USA that lays out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or gal). Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider's 1995 bestseller "The Rules," explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. I can understand why some groups would be hostile about this, but the fact is that when we grow up, there are a predefined set of dating rules. What happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21, and then realize we need to relearn them.


I wish there weren't any general rules, but courtship is a ritual. There are things that we make happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together, then the chances of long term happiness might be compromised. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work all too interestingly.


In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing, you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge, so feel free to adapt rules and add them as you feel inclined.


You can separate rules out into two parts, dating and online dating. Both areas have distinct rules that a woman should follow for dating success.


General Dating Rules
Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.
Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.
Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.
Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.
Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.
If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing.
If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
If you want a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.
Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.


Online Dating Rules
Always let them come to you, don't chase them via email.
Block anyone who annoys you instantly.
Post the best and most vampish photo you can find.
Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines.
Remain aloof and let yourself be chased.
Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt.
Never provide your real email or phone details.
Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn.
Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy, as well as enigmatic.
Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best.
Do not assume the person you are talking to is destitute or sad.
Never ever reply to emails on weekends. Wait until a weekday.
Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile.
If you don't want to date married men, spell it out in your profile.
A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored.
Make sure your humor levels come across in text.
Do not chat to hundreds of men at once. The delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.
Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.
Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results


Ladies, always remember that you are a sexy, desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always allow yourself to be the chooser. Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date. Always use a safe dating Website.

How to read Man's Body Language

Actions speak louder than words. A guy would say one thing, but his body will tell you another. Body language is a subconscious way of giving himself away.

If you are confused and still trying to figure out whether or not a guy has the hots for you, then it is best to check out this list of positive and negative body language. If a guy does more good body signs than bad signs, then there is a possibility that he is attracted to you.

However, it is best to be careful in doing and interpreting body language. Not everyone is comfortable with intimate body movements like being too close or touching his arm. For instance, if you lean too close to a guy, he might think your are overly aggressive or invading his space. In case he becomes queasy about it, apologize and put an ample distance between the two of you. At least that would give him a signal that you are sincere and caring.

A guy’s body language can easily be misinterpreted. A guy who seems to appear to be really close to you may mean that he is just a friendly guy, or if he crosses his arms then it probably because he is shy.

Positive Body Language:

He has good eye contact – Looking at another guy’s eyes is one of the easiest ways to check if he is interested in you. If his eyes look friendly and show sincerity to you, then getting along with him won’t be much of a problem.

His legs are slightly apart – Like straight men, gay men tend to make themselves attractive to other guys through their body positions. Putting their legs slightly apart make them appear taller, hotter, and more attractive. If he does this to you, then he is probably trying to catch your attention. You could probably even take a little peek downward if he’s trying to show off his package.

He twirls his hair – You may think it’s a girl thing, but combing his hair (especially above the ear) using his fingers is a sign of attraction. If he tries to twirl your hair gently, then let him do so.

His smile is wide open – You cannot fake a good smile. If the guy smiles widely, even showing the laugh lines or crow’s feet if the guy’s a bit more mature, then he has genuine fascination or attraction for you. Some guys would even smile to show their dimples.

He would gently touch his face, cheeks, or lips – Sometimes, a guy would touch his face, especially his lips, to show interest and attraction. Some would even interpret this as a sexy way for the guy to imagine how good would you be if you kiss him on the lips.

He leans towards you – We all have our personal spaces, or how near other people should be to us, but we tend to disregard them when we are with our loved ones. If a guy leans towards you, he wants to be receptive to you or to what you’re saying. At the same time, he wants to indicate that you are welcome in his personal space and he hopes that you do the same.

He would touch you – A guy would try to touch your arm or shoulder to show his desire and attraction to you, and at the same time he tries to test how you would respond. If he touches your shoulder, try touching his waist or his shoulder. You could also try holding his hand that is touching your elbow.

He would roll-up his sleeves and unbutton his shirt or jacket – He begins to feel comfortable to you, or you can say that he is trying to let off some steam after seeing you.

Negative Body Language:

He has that piercing eye contact – If he stares at you and you feel creepy about it, then it would be best not to continue your date.

He tends to look away – This may show insincerity on his part, or probably he may just be shy. Some guys may follow certain cultures about not staring too much at another person while conversing.

He constantly looks around while your talking – This is a sure sign that is disinterested towards you, even to a point that he looks around for other hot guys or a means to end the date quickly.

He clenches his jaw – If he shuts his jaw tightly, and you can tell from his gnashing teeth or his pursed lips, then he is become impatient towards you and the date.

He nods way too much while your talking – He is probably not listening to what you are saying. However, you can also say that he may have a short attention span. You can gauge it by asking him about his thoughts.

He crosses his arms or legs – Crossing arms is a sign of being defensive. This simply means that he is not yet open towards you. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t like you. Maybe he wouldn’t cross his arm after several dates.

He would shove his hands in his pockets – Like crossing arms, this is also a sign of being defensive. However, it can also mean that he is not interested about the date.

His hand would clasp the other elbow while smoking – Another sign of being defensive, and also another sign of disinterest. However, if he looks up while smoking then he is definitely bored on the date.

He firmly puts his finger on his chin or lips – Doing so is an indication that he is evaluating or criticizing you in his thoughts.

He puts his chin on his hand – If he leans his chin on his hand as if he is attending Business Ethics class, then he is totally bored either with your or with the date.

He slouches – Not trying to bear a good body position simply means that he is not trying to be attractive to you.

He puts out a thin, forced smile – As said before, smiling cannot be faked. Even if he smiles at you, as long as it is insincere, his smile would look thin and forced.

He tends to shift the weight on his legs – This shows that he is uncertain on how he would feel for you. It can also mean that he is simple nervous about talking to you.

He would drums the table using his fingers – He is simply disinterested with the the date and with what you are saying.

He would rub the back of his neck – If he shows moves like this then it means the guy is tired. He could either be tired from the work that he had before the date, or he could be tired because of the date.

He would clasp his thumbs around imaginary suspenders – This movement usually complement when he would brag about something. It is best to check if his boastfulness has some “weight” in it and not just “air.”

He constantly plays with his lighter or pen – He could either be bored or nervous about the date. Try asking him about his interests to loosen him up.

How to make a Good Impression to Win Heart

Ever heard of the saying "first impressions last"? Of course you have. The Axe commercial made sure of that. As tacky as it sounds, there is truth to the old Axe adage.

And while the Axe commercial is all about catching a girl’s attention and making good impression on her, I doubt if the cologne brand would be able to help you much when it comes to impressing her parents.



Fortunately it is not so hard to make a good first impression.

Be on time:
Always be punctual. When meeting your girlfriend’s parents, arriving on time gives the impression that you are reliable and respectful of other people’s time.

Grooming:
Make sure you are clean. Imagine dinner with your girlfriend’s parents would go if you reek of B.O. and have morning breath? Not good, right? Also, put on neat (and pressed) clothes.


Greeting:
When you greet her parents, make sure you greet them both in a polite and friendly manner. Make eye contact to give the impression that you are honest and trustworthy.

Giving compliments:
If you are dining at your girlfriend’s house, make sure you compliment the cook by telling them how good the food is. But of course you have to be sincere with your compliments or they will see right through you. Clean up after yourself when you are done, offer to help wash the dishes and thank them for dinner afterwards.


Meet your curfews:
If your out on a date, make sure you bring your girlfriend home at agreed time (or earlier). If you are running late for some reason, call her parents so they will not worry.


Underage drinking and driving:
If you are underage, do not drink and drive, and do not do drugs. You could get juvy time for DUI. Worst case scenario, you both end up dead.


Legal age drinking and driving:
Even if you are of legal drinking age, you could still go to jail for DUI. Never do drugs as well. And even if you are not driving, that is no excuse to get wasted.


Be active in school:
All parents like kids with good grades. What is even more impressive is if you are involved in school activities and still keep your grades up. It shows that you are a responsible person. And even if you are not seeing anyone at the moment, it is still nice to get good grades in school.


Be active in the community:
Be involved in community service organizations. Again it shows how responsible you are, and is also something worth doing even if you’re not out to impress anyone.


Do not overstay your welcome:
When you visit your girlfriend, make sure you stay for a reasonable length of time. Do not hang around doing nothing worthwhile. Do not overstay your welcome.